Sâm, 97 — Loss and the Vietnam — American War
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Sâm, 97 — Hoi An, Vietnam
“I had many kids (9 kids), but most of them died in the (Vietnam-American) war . They (soldiers) shot them. Now I just have 1 son and 1 daughter left. Seven of my kids died. I didn’t fight during the war because I didn’t know anything, I was just working. I have been living here my whole life.”
“During the war, we had to run away. My husband died from a bomb in 1970. I brought my kids to the forest. They were sitting there, the soldiers thought they were their enemies, then they shot them. Four of my sons died at the same time. I always cry (thinking about it). Every night, when I lay down in bed, I feel misery and cry.” As she is telling us her story, her eyes fill with tears and a deep sadness then she looks right into my eyes and I begin to cry.
“In this area, where my house is now, they were bombing a lot, so we ran to the forest. At night, they bombed. Whoever died, died. My neighbor has 3 or 4 sons, but they are all still alive but 6 of my 7 sons were killed. That is my fate and I have to grit my teeth and endure it.”
Sâm, 97 years old
Hoi An, Vietnam
Returning to see Sâm
![Sam and Trinh Hoi An Vietnam Sam and Trinh, Hoi An](https://360nomad.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/10/Sam-and-Trinh-Hoi-An-Vietnam.jpg)
We’ve spoken to many people who fought or were affected by the Vietnam-American War but never have we witnessed such sadness. Sâm has outlived 7 of her children, with a broken heart, for almost 50 years, crying every day.
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We returned to visit her with a care package of food which she was very happy to receive. Talking to Trinh cheered her up and she said: “You have such a sense of humor. I wish you lived near here so you could help me erase my sadness.”